Making New Friends
Step 1: Think about what you like to do.
- Make a list of things you like to do. To get ideas use the worksheet What Do I Like to Do?
- Ask people who know you well to help you. Get lots of ideas.
- Identify at least one or two interests or favorite activities.
Step 2: Find out where and when people are doing the things you like to do.
- If you like to garden, does the local nursery have a class? Is there a neighbor with a garden? Is there someone who can help you plan a garden?
- If you like to walk, do you know people who like to walk? Is there a walking club?
- Ask a supporter to help you look for events that match your interests. Choose activities to get involved in.
Step 3: Find out about other places to meet people. Check out local civic groups, community colleges, adult schools or libraries. Are there:
- People First meetings in your community?
- Dances and other activities at local recreation centers?
- Volunteer opportunities at parks, theaters, or museums?
Step 4: Just go do it!
- What will you try first? A club? A new place you haven’t been? A sports event?
- Do you need support - like a ride or help filling out a form? Ask!
- Do you want someone to go with you? Ask!
- Now… just go do it!
Step 5: What if I meet someone I’d like to have as a friend?
- Smile! Don’t look bored. Say your name. Ask for their name. Try to remember it.
- The weather is always a good place to start a conversation. “It is a beautiful day!”
- Follow-up with a question. “Do you like warm weather?”
- Talk about something you enjoy. Ask questions. Be a good listener.
If you both like the same thing, ask more about it. Perhaps ask the person out for lunch or coffee.
That will give you a chance to talk and get to know each other a little bit better.